How To Feel Beautiful… A Memoir By Becky With The Good Hair

That’s right, Becky With The Good Hair is back and better than ever with your guide to feeling beautiful. I can’t stop smiling right now, that’s how excited I am. Like, seriously, I’m getting a bit concerned…is this even normal? I have been sitting in front of my computer staring at cute puppy pictures these past couple of days, simply trying to get my mind off of missing all of you. I hope you’ve all been living each day the Becky way since I’ve been gone. I mean, you deserve it, my beautiful little butterflies.

Okay, so…

Another night, another pint of Ben and Jerry’s Chunky Monkey (great choice in lactose by the way) because you’re not feeling so great and you’re in need of a pick me up. Well, I’m here to tell you that…we all have those days and you must remember that it’s only temporary. It’s so important that you always know this and most of all feel this! So, turn down the sad music right now. After all, it’s 2018 and in today’s world it’s especially crucial that you practice self-love. How do I know this you ask? Because you’re all intelligent, strong, and downright hot…so show the world what you’ve got! I know what you’re thinking…”are you a poet on your downtime Becky?” Yes, yes I am. Now, if realizing just how great you are comes difficult to you then here are some steps that can help you out.

Step 1: Surround Yourself With The Good

Good #1-

Papa always told me to do what I love and love what I do. By investing your time with people and things you love, you are constantly winning. If you love singing, then sing! Bring Whitney Houston’s I Will Always Love You from the shower to the main stage, and depending on the dance moves… you can potentially bring those too.

Good #2-

Coming from someone who stresses a bunch (usually about which shoes to wear) I’m here to tell you…that it’s not worth it. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Find something that you can do that will instantly destress you, and run with it. If it helps you, here are some of my personal stress relievers; running, drawing, playing the harp, looking at Zac Efron and my favorite of course… writing to you Babes! So remember, you’re the best version of yourself when you’re not stressed out.

Good #3-

Surround yourself with non-toxic people. You need a support system that makes you feel like rainbows and sunshine 24/7. So if necessary, do some friend cleansing. The people who are lucky enough to be a part of your life should not be the ones who bring you down. Instead, they should be the ones that “lift you back up” when someone else does bring you down. Your friends and other loved ones should recognize how amazing you are and make you recognize it too.

Step 2:  Wake Up, Love Yourself, Repeat

You are truly one of a kind. I mean…even twins aren’t exactly the same. For real though, we are all unique in our own way. Do yourself a favor every morning and tell yourself how unbelievable you are. Look in the mirror and repeat it out loud. Every. Single. Day. Don’t worry about your roommate walking past your bedroom door at 9 am on a Tuesday, wondering why you’re talking to yourself, because truth be told they probably do it too. Be sure to always set goals for your future and never let anything or anyone tell you that you can’t do something. Now brace yourselves because I’m about to get all Gandhi-like on you for a second, but it needs to happen. Ahem – you are the only one with the power to tell yourself that you can’t do something or that you’re not good enough. *Mic drop*

Step 3: Confidence

Now, obviously this concept is easier said then done. It doesn’t just take someone telling you, “hey, be confident” for it to happen. First things first, stop believing everything that the world thinks of you, and begin to focus on what you think of yourself. Your Instagram aesthetic doesn’t define you, and I promise that no matter how many times you use that dog filter on Snapchat, you will still remain a human being. Ask anyone in the world and they will tell you that confidence is truly one of the sexiest qualities that a person can have. Not cockiness. Confidence. Keep in mind that there’s a huge difference between the two. So, stop slumping those broad and fabulous shoulders and work what your mama gave you!

Step 4: Love Your Insecurities:

Who is insecure about at least one thing to do with themselves? Everyone. As much as I hate to ruin this for you, even Beyoncé has her insecurities. THAT’S RIGHT… I SAID IT. Yet, she still manages to be a complete Queen! This all is due to the fact that she’s confident and embraces her insecurities. I want to see all of you working it just as Beyoncé does. Plus, believe it or not, the things you wish you could change most about yourself are probably someone else’s favorite qualities about you. And that’s the truth tea, Babes! That space in-between your two front teeth is beautiful! Soft smiling in photos is great and all, but stop doing it solely for the purpose of hiding that gap. Instead, I want you to smile extra big so that people can extra embrace that amazing quality of yours. Your differences are amazing and truly make you….YOU-nique.

Step 5: Be Body Positive

This is honestly something that cannot be taught. I blame Barbie (no offense). Was Barbie fun to play with as a young girl? Of course! But is Barbie the ideal form of beauty? Of course NOT. When people say that she is, it fires me up, it really does! We have become so used to looking at pictures of girls that barely have a belly button, that we feel as if that’s what it takes to look and be beautiful.

Now, whoever started this whole twisted idea of guys only being into girls who have blonde hair, blue eyes, long legs, and a flat stomach, definitely didn’t attend Harvard Law School like I did.

Alright…so maybe I didn’t go to Harvard, but you should still listen to my advice.

But because WE ARE genetically different, we all were created with different bone structures. For instance, some of us are born with wider hips (your girl Becky for example), while some of us were born with a longer torso (not your girl Becky for example). Even some of us were just born with a faster metabolism. The list can go on and on, but it won’t because…boring.

So, stop that nonsense of hating on your best friend because she eats an all carb diet and a minimum of 30 brownies per day, and yet remains to be the size of my left pinkie finger. That’s just how she was built, while you are the way that you were meant to be built and both of you are beautiful.

My girl Hannah Montana taught me at a young age that “Nobody’s Perfect,” and I’ll forever stand by those words.

Now, for the big wrap up:

At this point you better be eating that Chunky Monkey ice cream happily! I really hope that right about now you’re staring into your mirror, serenading yourself with Right Said Fred’s iconic lyric: “I’m too sexy for my shirt.” If you’re not, then where did I do you wrong?!

While you gaze at that beautiful being staring back at you, see the whole masterpiece. No one notices that pimple on your forehead so minuscule that you’d need a microscope to see. No silly, they stare at your face as a whole!

My final piece of Gandhi like advice for the day: Be The New Kayne.

Tis this marks my farewell my beautiful Babes!

I know, I know, you wish I could keep going, but this just means that you’ll have to wait to hear from me again!

*Virtually waves like Queen Elizabeth goodbye*

Xx Becky With The Good Hair